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ezralovesariaforever:

thelifeofamodestbeauty:

bengiyo:

thelifeofamodestbeauty:

I’m not really a brallie shipper or anything but I did like them as a couple. I just want somebody that is anti brallie and anti brandon to just explain to me why they hate the ship and brandon. I’m just curious.

I have written about Brandon before.

Wow, I didn’t expect anyone to provide such a detailed analysis. Anyway, thank you for your comments. I understand your perspective, but I disagree on some points. 

…his self-destructive tendencies and his complete misunderstanding of unconditional love. 

Now, I agree that Brandon has been going down a bad road and that his actions have been self-destructive, however, I disagree with the notion that he has a complete misunderstanding of unconditional love. By definition, unconditional love is described as affection without any limitations. It means to love completely. I have friends that are psychology majors and we recently had a conversation about love and what true and unconditional love was. One of my friends said that she learned that unconditional love is when you only care about someone else’s happiness, without giving a second thought to what will happen to you; that is why it is called unconditional. Brandon loves his family, unconditionally, and that causes him to become a people pleaser. He wants to make everyone happy, Callie, his mom, his dad, etc. but he goes to the extreme to make sure that happens. I agree that his participation in all those illegal activities was stupid and destructive, but I believe that by doing nothing he felt as if he wasn’t supporting or helping his family better their situation. He just felt like he just had to do something, anything. In the previous episode, Mike told Stef that at least Brandon cared enough to do something about the situation instead of sit around and wait for the problem to solve itself which is what Mike felt like he was doing. Now, Mike didn’t agree with Brandon’s approach or his methods, but he understood why he did what he did. I know most people can’t look pass his previous transgressions, and I completely understand that, but the only reason I can understand them is because I look at one’s actions based on their intentions. Now, Brandon’s misguided attempts to help has caused more harm than good, but does one just sit back and watch someone they love be threatened, hurt, or mistreated. As humans, we have empathy for others especially for those that we love, so helping them in their time of need becomes almost an instant reaction. So in all, I think that Brandon understands unconditional love, but where he fails is that he hasn’t learned to love himself yet and neither has Callie. You can’t effectively love someone without learning to love yourself. Even then, you can still cause more harm than good, but I guess you have to ask yourself, How many times have you said, but I was only trying to help? It happens. In the end, Brandon was wrong, but everything isn’t so black and white; it becomes more than right and wrong.

Why does he feel he must constantly sacrifice of himself the things that are most important to him to be with someone?

I agree, Brandon needs to learn that you don’t have to sacrifice who you are and what you love to be with someone or to please others. I believe that Brandon doesn’t know who he is anymore because he has always been the golden child, but he has never questioned his identity until Callie came along. I remember the scene in the music room when she asked him, “how do you know who you are if you do what everyone tells you to do.” Sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone, to truly get a better idea of who you truly are. Sometimes, things that were once really important to you become less important as you grow and learn. You don’t find this out without taking some risks and of course you could lose yourself and all could backfire, but that possibility comes with any decision that you make. I believe that Brandon thought that he was doing everything for Callie’s love and affection, but he was indirectly rebelling because he was tired on being the goodie two shoes, and Callie was the perfect scapegoat to use. Don’t get me wrong, he loves Callie and his family, but I believe somewhere in there he started to embrace the rebellion. I know from personal experience, I had a hard time in high school being labeled the good girl. I did stupid things to prove that I wasn’t all good, but then I realized that the “good girl” was who I was but it took me stepping outside my comfort zone to find that out. In the end, it appears that Brandon is sacrificing a lot to be with someone, but I think he is more starting to question if what he thought was so important to him before is still just as important to him now. The same can be said for Callie, why does she constantly sacrifice of herself  the happiness that she deserves just to prove her loyalty and love to Jude? How long is she obligated to put her life on hold to make sure Jude is taken care of? At some point she will need to find her own identity that isn’t entirely Jude centered. I understand that Callie’s situation is more dire, she is protecting Jude and has had to do such since her parents died, but when is it her turn to live her own live and be a little selfish in which she makes decisions based on her own happiness. Both Callie and Brandon are stuck sacrificing things that they love because they don’t want to be labeled selfish. 

She and Brandon were engaging in an unhealthy relationship that was not conducive to Callie’s trauma recovery.

I have seen plenty of people describe Callie and Brandon’s relationship as unhealthy and while I agree that is wasn’t pretty, it also wasn’t completely unhealthy. Callie has trust issues and she hadn’t told anybody about her rape until she met Brandon. Even Jude, doesn’t know the full extent of the hurt that Liam caused her. Brandon was an essential part in her trauma recovery. The hardest step is admitting to someone that you were raped and that it wasn’t your fault. Callie admits this to Brandon and he stands there and listens which is his way of supporting her. All she needed and ever wanted was someone to believe in her and listen to her. Brandon did this, which caused her to trust him and eventually fall in love with him. It is to the point that she doesn’t need him to talk to feel his support. This is evident when he turns to leave Callie to tell the moms about Liam and she simply asks him to stay because she needed his silent support. Callie supports Brandon, but she is more vocal. She calls him out on his impulsive behavior, and makes him see situations from a more optimistic perspective such as when she encouraged him to continue to play the piano despite the chose of music he would be forced to play. Some people say that Callie needs a family more than she needs a boyfriend. This is a simplistic notion, because it is more complex than choosing between a boyfriend and a family. Brandon was more than a boyfriend, he was a sense of security and love. Callie wouldn’t have trusted Lena and Stef without Brandon breaking down her walls that she had built up over the years. Now, don’t get me wrong, Stef and Lena are amazing mothers and they showed so much love to Callie and Jude, but Callie wouldn’t receive it because she felt that she wasn’t worthy of love. Unintentionally, Brandon’s relentless pursuit and persistence caused her to break down her walls and accept that she does deserve to be loved. This was evident when she pulled him aside at the wedding and kissed him. She started to believe that she was beautiful, smart, kind, and caring; like Brandon told her. Jude’s reaction caused her to rebuild those walls and sacrifice her happiness, once again, because she refuses to be labeled as selfish. Callie and Brandon keep each other grounded, whenever the other speaks they listen and take it to heart. With the others’ advice, they eventually make the right or best decision. I believe that this is being showcased more throughout this season, but most people are still viewing the situation as black and white. In the end, they are good for each other in the sense that they make each other stop and think. 

If Callie hadn’t been relying on the phone leverage, maybe she would have gotten help or intervention for Cole before he got hurt.

All I can say about this is that Cole was a stranger to Callie, and she had her own shit going on, so it wasn’t her fault that Cole got hurt. Callie didn’t view Cole as a friend or even an acquaintance at this time. She was worried about her life, which was the point of being at Girls United. She was suppose to work on herself and get to the underlying root of her problems and learn to face them instead of run away. In some way, you are labeling Callie as selfish because she was finally focused on herself and didn’t notice or cater to Cole’s problems. People say Callie needs to work on herself, but how can she when she is told that she is responsible for someone else’s mistakes because she wasn’t paying attention. It would have been nice if she had of saved Cole, but in reality she wasn’t obligated to play hero and she shouldn’t be faulted for his accident. 

Good. Sisters should be able to talk to their brothers about what’s going on. But that’s all Callie needs from Brandon. She needs to feel safe. She should not spend all of their interactions negotiating space and worrying about his love for her. 

Again, I agree with you that sisters should be able to talk to their brothers about what’s going on, but Callie and Brandon have never viewed each other as siblings. If you put too hormonal teenagers together in a house, there is always the possibility of them becoming more than platonic. There are book and movies that parents who are planning to place teenagers of the opposite sex together under one household, must watch because many psychologists warn them that their relationship might not be platonic. Callie and Brandon met and developed a deep connection, when she was suppose to be living with them temporarily. By the time, Stef and Lena planned to adopt Callie, she already felt a certain way about Brandon. I think it’s unrealistic for some fans of the show to think, that they both can just move on and not question what could have been. The problem is that Callie already has trust issues and because of her past she has a preconceived notion that men are bad, so when Brandon comes along and he starts to change her narrative it becomes too overwhelming. She feels safe with him and she feels as if she can tell him anything. If you notice that the minute she enters a room with Brandon, she feels that she has to confess something or get whatever is bothering her off her chest. There is a level of security and comfortability she feels with Brandon, that she doesn’t feel with anyone else besides Jude. The problem is that she finds it difficult to place Brandon and Jude on the same level because one is clearly her brother while the other is suppose to be a brother but she has more romantic feelings towards him. The reason that she needs to spend their interactions negotiating space and discussing love is because she has to address the elephant that is always in the room when they interact. Whenever they have a conversation, you can sense the connection that they have and you could cut the tension with a knife so sometimes it becomes too much and Callie feels she has to address it. The only way to avoid these uncomfortable conservations is if they stop talking to each other because until their attraction to each other pass then their conservations will involve them addressing the elephant in the room more often. 

While high, Brandon indicated that he associates love with lust. That is NOT good. Just because you feel a physical attraction does not mean that there is love there.

I believe that Brandon associated love with lust because everybody has been telling him that he is wrong to feel the way that he does about his foster sister, so he begins to acquit what he thought was love with lust. He knows that he is attracted to Callie, but he also knows that he doesn’t just want her body. He cares about her well-being and he wants her to be happy, so he thinks that cause of these reasons he must love her. However, everyone else is diminishing his love for her and placing it in a sexual context, so he begins to believe that he was only lusting after Callie instead of loving her. If he was lusting after Callie he would have tried to have sex with her before he knew about the adoption, I believe he genuinely cared about her. 

Shippers

Some people ship Callie and Brandon for shallow reasons such as they are cute together or they have chemistry, but not everyone views them this way. I personally see the potential for a beautiful, genuine, and romantic relationship to develop between Callie and Brandon once each person deals with their issues and learn to love themselves. They have had a positive and negative impact on each other and I believe that with time they can have a healthy relationship if everyone moves out of their way and let their relationship grow without coercing and guilt shaming. DNA doesn’t make a family, isn’t the only theme of the show, but also love is love. You can’t control who you love and how you love them, and no one should have the authority to alter someone’s love or tell them that they are wrong for loving someone the way that they do. 

Again, thank you for your comments and I love to talk to people about different topics without them being hostile. Sorry this was so long, I love to write *shrug* :))

Amazing response!

Thank you lol I honestly believe I am too invested in this show but oh well haha

The Fosters-Episode 7: The Longest Day

Hello everyone, thank you for your likes, reblogs, and comments. I usually wait to write a review, but I just loved this episode so much and I have free time so here I am haha. Again, I appreciate the feedback. Also, I wouldn’t mind responding to “asks” if someone wants to leave one. Enjoy! :))

Mike, Lena, Stef, & Brandon Scenes

The scenes between the parents is the reason that I absolutely adore this show. They address such controversial issues without being too preachy or awkward. The Fosters is like a well-oiled machine, in other words, the show just seems to flow. I never feel as if they are creating drama for ratings. I really have to applaud the writers for developing such a unique and authentic show. I love that I can place myself in the shoes of each character and that I find myself writing LONG reviews that are too long for a thirty minute show. Anyway, all I can say about this episode is LENNNNA!!!! Seriously, she deserves a round of applause and it has been long overdue. Lena was my favorite character before this episode, but after tonight she might be my favorite television character of all time. (wait maybe second behind Claire Huxtable haha) Tonight, she spoke nothing but the truth. She was honest, firm, and loving. It was amazing to see her support Brandon and chastise Mike and Stef for thinking of themselves while Brandon suffered in silence. I really wanted to give Lena a hug and say thank you for saying everything that I have wanted someone to say since the previous episode. I loved that Lena used tough love with Mike and Stef and that she refused to let them leave the house until they agreed on a solution. That was incredibly smart on Lena’s part, because if Mike had left that house and went to talk to Dani, I could just imagine him being emotionally manipulated by her. She could’ve convinced him that Brandon wanted it or that he wasn’t as drunk as he said that he was. This is an improvement from last episode when Lena felt as if she was the step-parent, she probably was honored that Brandon trusted her with his secret. This time Stef and Mike couldn’t exclude her from the decision-making process, like they occasionally do when it involves Brandon. She set the rules this time and made them communicate and compromise. Now, I was initially pissed at Mike when he decided to victim blame. He went as far as accusing Brandon of lying. After my initial reaction, I realized that Mike was in denial because he didn’t want to admit that he might have failed as a father, again. He was the one that introduced Dani into his life as well as his son’s and he felt like a horrible father for ignoring the tension between Brandon and Dani. He assumed that it was due to the fact that Brandon didn’t want him to have a girlfriend. He never questioned why Brandon seemed so uncomfortable around Dani. I sympathized with Mike because he believes that he passed his alcoholism to Brandon, and he doesn’t want him to have to fight the same battle that he is still currently fighting. It is a constant struggle for Mike to stay sober and he knows that he can’t watch Brandon go through the same struggle. He wants to make up for the years that he missed, but Mike has to stop feeling guilty and realize that from now on he needs to just show Brandon unconditional love. Move forward, the past is the past. Anyway, the writers were brilliant in portraying the struggle of a male rape victim whom was raped by an older woman. Many people believe that men and boys can’t be raped ,especially by women, because they are viewed as stronger and able to physically fight them off. I have plenty of male friends that lost their virginity to an older woman such as their babysitter, and when I tell them that it was rape, they simply laugh and say that they can’t be raped. I agree that the world is harsh to female rape victims, but male victims get shoved to the side and told that men can’t be raped because all they think about is sex. They would never turn down sex so it can’t be non-consensual. Once again, I applaud the fosters for handling Brandon’s situation so delicately. I especially loved when Stef asked Mike what he would do if it were Mariana in Brandon’s position. Mike realized that gender doesn’t diminish or dismiss the fact that rape is rape. I’m happy that justice was served and that Dani was charged with statutory rape. The only thing that worries me is that she will be released from jail and want to get revenge or be a woman scorned. It would be like Ana all over again. Yikes! Hopefully, she is gone for good. 

Jude’s Scenes

Jude is truly an amazing human being. He is thoughtful, intuitive, caring, etc. I mean the list can go on and on. I am excited that he is finally realizing that Callie deserves to be happy. He expressed that he doesn’t like that he has to share her, but he is willing to just like he did with the fosters. That scene almost made me cry because he knows that she needs to be set free of the guilt and shame that she has for wanting to find her own happiness. Callie needs to know that Jude will be fine while she goes on her own personal journey to discover who she really is and what she really wants. She needs to be reassured that whatever she finds on this journey will not affect their relationship and that it may eventually strengthen it. I believe that this scene was more than him giving her his consent to continue visiting her other family, but he was indirectly providing her with the push she needs that only he can provide. He was the one that was unintentionally holding her back from truly blossoming into who she was meant to be. I think Jude now understands that he can’t be selfish and prevent Callie from living her life. He wasn’t intentionally trying to stunt her growth, he was afraid to lose his sister. Jude thought that if he let her go, then she would discover something or someone better than him and he would be pushed to the side. With Callie’s reassurance, he is able to see that nothing will break their bond. 

Mariana, Hayley, Emma, & Jesus Scenes

I cringe every week watching Mariana become a stereotypical blonde, bitchy cheerleader/dancer. She is really struggling with her identity and it is sad to see her look like such a lost puppy every episode. I hate that she is dumbing herself down to fit in with those girls. I know that she isn’t the best dancer, but I hope that she listened to Mat when he told her to practice. “Sometimes hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.” With Tia’s help, I believe that Mari can become a very good dancer. However, I can’t wait until she embraces her Latina background. At one point, she was so proud of her culture like when she had a quinceanera. Hopefully, she finds herself and dyes her hair back brown even though the blonde is starting to grow on me. haha. Now on to the love triangle with Hayley, Jesus, and Emma. I have never watched a show and been so over a storyline as much as I am over this one. I don’t know what Hayley’s motives are, but I do applaud Emma for  standing her ground and telling off Jesus. You go girl!

Sophia & Jill Boat Scene

Sophia and Jill clearly have some unresolved issues with each other. You can tell that Sophia is frustrated and bored with her life. She knows that she is privileged and lucky, but she seems to be tired of being the perfect poster child. At first I only thought that she was trying to impress Callie, which she was, but then I realized that she wants Callie’s help and company. In reality, she believes that Callie is lucky despite her past transgressions. Callie gets to be free and she is able to make mistakes, whereas Sophia is expected to be perfect. I believe that Sophia means no harm, however her manipulation of her dad when she tried to convince him to adopt Callie was quite suspect and by the look on his face, he was considering it. 

Robert & Callie Scenes

Robert seems to be the best dad in the world. I found myself watching the show tonight wishing that I had that type of easy-going relationship with my dad. Robert appears to be honest and genuine, so I hope that it isn’t an act. One thing I noticed about Robert is that he frequently says things that pertain to Callie’s life. In a previous episode, it was the parallel of his relationship with Colleen to Brandon and Callie’s relationship. This episode, he tells Jude about the time that he got lost when he was sailing. Jude, like most of us, viewed this incident as scary and unfortunate, but Robert is the exact opposite, he views his past incident as an adventure. He tells Jude that sometimes you just have to throw caution to the wind and let the stars align. You could see Callie in the corner pondering about her life and how she just needs to let go and let the stars align, whatever they may be. I really believe that Robert is going to say something that helps Callie to finally make a decision about her adoption. He always seems to indirectly make her think about and question certain decisions that she made. Honestly, I am ecstatic to see Callie come into her own and blossom into a beautiful young woman that is confident and strong. 

Brandon & Stef Scene

All I can say about this scene is that I adore Brandon and Stef’s mother and son moments. They are so precious and heart-warming. Stef truly loves her B and she is never afraid to comfort him when he needs it. I loved that Stef climbed in the bed with Brandon and just laid there because like the title states, he had the longest day ever. She wants him to know that she is there for him and that he doesn’t need to be ashamed or humiliated. The one thing that I didn’t like was that Brandon is becoming detached from his siblings. Mariana and Jesus are confiding in each other without arguing and Callie and Jude are doing the same. Whereas, Brandon is in his room sulking. I hope next episode or in upcoming episodes, he tells his siblings and they provide him with love and support. 

Curious!!

bengiyo:

thelifeofamodestbeauty:

I’m not really a brallie shipper or anything but I did like them as a couple. I just want somebody that is anti brallie and anti brandon to just explain to me why they hate the ship and brandon. I’m just curious.

I have written about Brandon before.

Wow, I didn’t expect anyone to provide such a detailed analysis. Anyway, thank you for your comments. I understand your perspective, but I disagree on some points. 

…his self-destructive tendencies and his complete misunderstanding of unconditional love. 

Now, I agree that Brandon has been going down a bad road and that his actions have been self-destructive, however, I disagree with the notion that he has a complete misunderstanding of unconditional love. By definition, unconditional love is described as affection without any limitations. It means to love completely. I have friends that are psychology majors and we recently had a conversation about love and what true and unconditional love was. One of my friends said that she learned that unconditional love is when you only care about someone else’s happiness, without giving a second thought to what will happen to you; that is why it is called unconditional. Brandon loves his family, unconditionally, and that causes him to become a people pleaser. He wants to make everyone happy, Callie, his mom, his dad, etc. but he goes to the extreme to make sure that happens. I agree that his participation in all those illegal activities was stupid and destructive, but I believe that by doing nothing he felt as if he wasn’t supporting or helping his family better their situation. He just felt like he just had to do something, anything. In the previous episode, Mike told Stef that at least Brandon cared enough to do something about the situation instead of sit around and wait for the problem to solve itself which is what Mike felt like he was doing. Now, Mike didn’t agree with Brandon’s approach or his methods, but he understood why he did what he did. I know most people can’t look pass his previous transgressions, and I completely understand that, but the only reason I can understand them is because I look at one’s actions based on their intentions. Now, Brandon’s misguided attempts to help has caused more harm than good, but does one just sit back and watch someone they love be threatened, hurt, or mistreated. As humans, we have empathy for others especially for those that we love, so helping them in their time of need becomes almost an instant reaction. So in all, I think that Brandon understands unconditional love, but where he fails is that he hasn’t learned to love himself yet and neither has Callie. You can’t effectively love someone without learning to love yourself. Even then, you can still cause more harm than good, but I guess you have to ask yourself, How many times have you said, but I was only trying to help? It happens. In the end, Brandon was wrong, but everything isn’t so black and white; it becomes more than right and wrong.

Why does he feel he must constantly sacrifice of himself the things that are most important to him to be with someone?

I agree, Brandon needs to learn that you don’t have to sacrifice who you are and what you love to be with someone or to please others. I believe that Brandon doesn’t know who he is anymore because he has always been the golden child, but he has never questioned his identity until Callie came along. I remember the scene in the music room when she asked him, “how do you know who you are if you do what everyone tells you to do.” Sometimes you have to step outside of your comfort zone, to truly get a better idea of who you truly are. Sometimes, things that were once really important to you become less important as you grow and learn. You don’t find this out without taking some risks and of course you could lose yourself and all could backfire, but that possibility comes with any decision that you make. I believe that Brandon thought that he was doing everything for Callie’s love and affection, but he was indirectly rebelling because he was tired on being the goodie two shoes, and Callie was the perfect scapegoat to use. Don’t get me wrong, he loves Callie and his family, but I believe somewhere in there he started to embrace the rebellion. I know from personal experience, I had a hard time in high school being labeled the good girl. I did stupid things to prove that I wasn’t all good, but then I realized that the “good girl” was who I was but it took me stepping outside my comfort zone to find that out. In the end, it appears that Brandon is sacrificing a lot to be with someone, but I think he is more starting to question if what he thought was so important to him before is still just as important to him now. The same can be said for Callie, why does she constantly sacrifice of herself  the happiness that she deserves just to prove her loyalty and love to Jude? How long is she obligated to put her life on hold to make sure Jude is taken care of? At some point she will need to find her own identity that isn’t entirely Jude centered. I understand that Callie’s situation is more dire, she is protecting Jude and has had to do such since her parents died, but when is it her turn to live her own live and be a little selfish in which she makes decisions based on her own happiness. Both Callie and Brandon are stuck sacrificing things that they love because they don’t want to be labeled selfish. 

She and Brandon were engaging in an unhealthy relationship that was not conducive to Callie’s trauma recovery.

I have seen plenty of people describe Callie and Brandon’s relationship as unhealthy and while I agree that is wasn’t pretty, it also wasn’t completely unhealthy. Callie has trust issues and she hadn’t told anybody about her rape until she met Brandon. Even Jude, doesn’t know the full extent of the hurt that Liam caused her. Brandon was an essential part in her trauma recovery. The hardest step is admitting to someone that you were raped and that it wasn’t your fault. Callie admits this to Brandon and he stands there and listens which is his way of supporting her. All she needed and ever wanted was someone to believe in her and listen to her. Brandon did this, which caused her to trust him and eventually fall in love with him. It is to the point that she doesn’t need him to talk to feel his support. This is evident when he turns to leave Callie to tell the moms about Liam and she simply asks him to stay because she needed his silent support. Callie supports Brandon, but she is more vocal. She calls him out on his impulsive behavior, and makes him see situations from a more optimistic perspective such as when she encouraged him to continue to play the piano despite the chose of music he would be forced to play. Some people say that Callie needs a family more than she needs a boyfriend. This is a simplistic notion, because it is more complex than choosing between a boyfriend and a family. Brandon was more than a boyfriend, he was a sense of security and love. Callie wouldn’t have trusted Lena and Stef without Brandon breaking down her walls that she had built up over the years. Now, don’t get me wrong, Stef and Lena are amazing mothers and they showed so much love to Callie and Jude, but Callie wouldn’t receive it because she felt that she wasn’t worthy of love. Unintentionally, Brandon’s relentless pursuit and persistence caused her to break down her walls and accept that she does deserve to be loved. This was evident when she pulled him aside at the wedding and kissed him. She started to believe that she was beautiful, smart, kind, and caring; like Brandon told her. Jude’s reaction caused her to rebuild those walls and sacrifice her happiness, once again, because she refuses to be labeled as selfish. Callie and Brandon keep each other grounded, whenever the other speaks they listen and take it to heart. With the others’ advice, they eventually make the right or best decision. I believe that this is being showcased more throughout this season, but most people are still viewing the situation as black and white. In the end, they are good for each other in the sense that they make each other stop and think. 

If Callie hadn’t been relying on the phone leverage, maybe she would have gotten help or intervention for Cole before he got hurt.

All I can say about this is that Cole was a stranger to Callie, and she had her own shit going on, so it wasn’t her fault that Cole got hurt. Callie didn’t view Cole as a friend or even an acquaintance at this time. She was worried about her life, which was the point of being at Girls United. She was suppose to work on herself and get to the underlying root of her problems and learn to face them instead of run away. In some way, you are labeling Callie as selfish because she was finally focused on herself and didn’t notice or cater to Cole’s problems. People say Callie needs to work on herself, but how can she when she is told that she is responsible for someone else’s mistakes because she wasn’t paying attention. It would have been nice if she had of saved Cole, but in reality she wasn’t obligated to play hero and she shouldn’t be faulted for his accident. 

Good. Sisters should be able to talk to their brothers about what’s going on. But that’s all Callie needs from Brandon. She needs to feel safe. She should not spend all of their interactions negotiating space and worrying about his love for her. 

Again, I agree with you that sisters should be able to talk to their brothers about what’s going on, but Callie and Brandon have never viewed each other as siblings. If you put too hormonal teenagers together in a house, there is always the possibility of them becoming more than platonic. There are book and movies that parents who are planning to place teenagers of the opposite sex together under one household, must watch because many psychologists warn them that their relationship might not be platonic. Callie and Brandon met and developed a deep connection, when she was suppose to be living with them temporarily. By the time, Stef and Lena planned to adopt Callie, she already felt a certain way about Brandon. I think it’s unrealistic for some fans of the show to think, that they both can just move on and not question what could have been. The problem is that Callie already has trust issues and because of her past she has a preconceived notion that men are bad, so when Brandon comes along and he starts to change her narrative it becomes too overwhelming. She feels safe with him and she feels as if she can tell him anything. If you notice that the minute she enters a room with Brandon, she feels that she has to confess something or get whatever is bothering her off her chest. There is a level of security and comfortability she feels with Brandon, that she doesn’t feel with anyone else besides Jude. The problem is that she finds it difficult to place Brandon and Jude on the same level because one is clearly her brother while the other is suppose to be a brother but she has more romantic feelings towards him. The reason that she needs to spend their interactions negotiating space and discussing love is because she has to address the elephant that is always in the room when they interact. Whenever they have a conversation, you can sense the connection that they have and you could cut the tension with a knife so sometimes it becomes too much and Callie feels she has to address it. The only way to avoid these uncomfortable conservations is if they stop talking to each other because until their attraction to each other pass then their conservations will involve them addressing the elephant in the room more often. 

While high, Brandon indicated that he associates love with lust. That is NOT good. Just because you feel a physical attraction does not mean that there is love there.

I believe that Brandon associated love with lust because everybody has been telling him that he is wrong to feel the way that he does about his foster sister, so he begins to acquit what he thought was love with lust. He knows that he is attracted to Callie, but he also knows that he doesn’t just want her body. He cares about her well-being and he wants her to be happy, so he thinks that cause of these reasons he must love her. However, everyone else is diminishing his love for her and placing it in a sexual context, so he begins to believe that he was only lusting after Callie instead of loving her. If he was lusting after Callie he would have tried to have sex with her before he knew about the adoption, I believe he genuinely cared about her. 

Shippers

Some people ship Callie and Brandon for shallow reasons such as they are cute together or they have chemistry, but not everyone views them this way. I personally see the potential for a beautiful, genuine, and romantic relationship to develop between Callie and Brandon once each person deals with their issues and learn to love themselves. They have had a positive and negative impact on each other and I believe that with time they can have a healthy relationship if everyone moves out of their way and let their relationship grow without coercing and guilt shaming. DNA doesn’t make a family, isn’t the only theme of the show, but also love is love. You can’t control who you love and how you love them, and no one should have the authority to alter someone’s love or tell them that they are wrong for loving someone the way that they do. 

Again, thank you for your comments and I love to talk to people about different topics without them being hostile. Sorry this was so long, I love to write *shrug* :))

Re: Your post about Brandon and Callie. I'm not into "shipping" anyone really. The thing is, Brandon and Callie have so much they need to work out individually - not to mention that if they pursue a relationship, Callie will be moved. I understand they're teenagers, but it's hard to see Brandon, in particular (in past episodes) disregard Callie's own warnings and not take her seriously. I wish them both happiness, but more than that I wish them healing. Because they both really need it.

Thank you for the reply and I agree. I hope that they both find some sort of happiness and peace. The only thing that I have a problem with is that I believe that actions speak louder than words. Callie was verbally giving Brandon warnings about how they couldn’t be together but she wasn’t physically showing that by kissing him and texting him. I know that she was confused, but she was sending very mixed signals. She would push him away and then confide in him. For anybody, male or female it would confuse you. He knows what she needs but at the same time he knows what she wants. In the end, he realized that what she needed such as a family was more important, but to have to live with her and see her everyday is probably difficult. Thank you again for replying 👌

Curious!!

I’m not really a brallie shipper or anything but I did like them as a couple. I just want somebody that is anti brallie and anti brandon to just explain to me why they hate the ship and brandon. I’m just curious.